tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3645621547266256254.post1923063428181951961..comments2023-04-03T22:21:05.407+01:00Comments on IOSWYT: Mother of One.Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3645621547266256254.post-79765546228830874212013-07-10T18:28:51.526+01:002013-07-10T18:28:51.526+01:00I read that article. I think having one child is g...I read that article. I think having one child is great. I have two and every other day I think how much easier life would be if I had one. My kids are awesome separately, but together they are mayhem and chaos! :) I hope they'll like each other though when they grow up and then this all would have been worth it.Lhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15482459464795182198noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3645621547266256254.post-80341311213102955342013-07-01T11:40:46.838+01:002013-07-01T11:40:46.838+01:00firstly, thank you for sharing this. i get this al...firstly, thank you for sharing this. i get this all the time, we have one. i was one. it's not all that strange for me. like the article says 'To have a happy kid I need to be a happy mother and to be a happy mother I need to be a happy person.' is so spot on, i know for sure i wouldn't be the person i am now if i had two. weirdly i don't ever feel the need to say to someone, why have you got two, three, four, five children? why didn't you stop at one? strange they feel they can say it to us? my parents and my husband and his parents too all have siblings, a good chunk of them don't even talk to each other! like you, we have opportunities now that we wouldn't if we were more than three, so we too are the magic number x <br />HPMcQhttp://hpmcq.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3645621547266256254.post-36963376799177980492013-06-19T18:34:52.398+01:002013-06-19T18:34:52.398+01:00I think do whats best for you and your family!
We...I think do whats best for you and your family! <br />We have one child, we are only going to have one child - due to how I feel and the fact its not safe health-wise to have more. There fore its easier for me when asked such question.<br />We have such preconceived ideas of what an 'only' child will be that it has become boring. As long as we have fun, raise the child with communication, experiences, love, attention, allowing them later in life to make educated choices then its a good a start as any - whether they are 'only' children or not!<br /><br />Superdoghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06204500668044468247noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3645621547266256254.post-81089934098414685902013-06-18T20:02:58.992+01:002013-06-18T20:02:58.992+01:00I can't really see how I'm going to have m...I can't really see how I'm going to have more than one, being a thirty-eight year old singleton & I do worry about bringing up some spolit brat without even being aware of it, but it is what it is, so I guess the only thing that can be done is to enjoy everyday and what will be will be- an only child is not necessarily a lonely child..Disgruntled of Didsburyhttp://www.disgruntledofdidsbury.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3645621547266256254.post-27025350180885802032013-06-18T10:52:35.149+01:002013-06-18T10:52:35.149+01:00Last year I lost a baby at 21 weeks and to be hone...Last year I lost a baby at 21 weeks and to be honest, I don't know how I got through it. But I was determined to get pregnant again as soon as possible, which has now resulted in me being pregnant pretty much consistently for a WHOLE YEAR & I've got another 3 months to go. <br /><br />I feel so miserable, and then I feel guilty for feeling miserable. This was all my choice and I am so happy that, so far, everything in this pregnancy is fine, but I really hate being pregnant. I don't blame you for not wanting to go through it again!Lyndsay Buchananhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13181826201175834100noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3645621547266256254.post-16286992233818084332013-06-17T17:49:12.855+01:002013-06-17T17:49:12.855+01:00The thing I still get from people when I tell them...The thing I still get from people when I tell them that we're only having the one is the reply "oh you'll change your mind". <br /><br />That seriously pisses me off. Especially as this comment always comes from people who hardly know me. Why will I change my mind? Because you said so? Because I'm simply a slave to my ovaries and can't think for myself? It's so condescending.<br /><br />If anyone actually had the nerve to suggest I was being selfish for not wanting a second or that Pip would suffer in some way because of it, I think I would have to tear them off a new one. The very suggestion is sheer bollocks. <br /><br />I know, I know. I really need to learn to form an opinion.The Dress Treehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07544744148010707632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3645621547266256254.post-2012834575339741682013-06-17T10:37:34.662+01:002013-06-17T10:37:34.662+01:00After the shock of having my first daughter wore o...After the shock of having my first daughter wore off one of the first things my husband and I did was to promise not to comment on anyone else's decisions about raising their children.<br />With new eyes I realised just how bloody judgemental I had been before without even realising it.<br />What I now find more surprising is how people who have walked through the horror and joy of having children can still cast their judgements about willy-nilly.<br />Ultimately we are all just people, trying desperately to do our best when we really haven't got a bloody clue. <br />Isn't the important bit 'doing our best'? Especially the 'our' bit, because everyone is different.<br />Well done you - It's bloody difficult and you are bloody awesome for being proud of the decision to do the best thing for you and your family :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3645621547266256254.post-52343631550511701742013-06-17T05:03:08.820+01:002013-06-17T05:03:08.820+01:00I'm hoping the article is online, it sounds in...I'm hoping the article is online, it sounds interesting. But you're absolutely right, it has to be your decision and should be something other people are polite enough to not ask about.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3645621547266256254.post-85668731873915605972013-06-16T22:32:50.187+01:002013-06-16T22:32:50.187+01:00I am learning that people judge every decision you...I am learning that people judge every decision you make when you become a parent! It is a massive pain and I totally know where you are coming from. Obviously we know what is best for our own families and your decision is clearly the best for your family. Sounds like you have a very happy little girl and a good relationship. Stick to your guns!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12609304451087893504noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3645621547266256254.post-12125241745543731152013-06-16T21:50:11.215+01:002013-06-16T21:50:11.215+01:00Your choices are entirely your own and if you'...Your choices are entirely your own and if you're happy then you're right! Nobody else's opinion matters! I actually think you're very brave for writing this as people can be very opinionated on this subject. What is it with old ladies asking "Are you having any more dear?" It's just so rude and so personal! I always wanted to say "Well we've been at it like rabbits, but no joy yet" or something equally shocking! Grrrrrr. Glad you're happy, that's nice to read :)<br /><br />Kate x<br /><a href="http://justpirouetteandcarryon.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">Just Pirouette and Carry On...</a> Kate Pirouettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02609441919103983501noreply@blogger.com